I have read books about aging that talk about all the various personal milestones most of us go through when we age: physical changes of all sorts, mental changes, and perhaps societal changes. There's less talk about the milestones in the lives of our friends and acquaintances and how they affect us.
I got a Facebook message today from one of my college friends: "My mom died today." I have a variety of memories about her mom, although I never spent lots of time with her.
I spent some time scrolling through Facebook. My high school friend who is moving his parents into an assisted living facility has lots of posts describing both that process and his process of cleaning out the house. Last week I wrote a post about how strange it is to read about this process.
Here's a post from a friend and a picture of her daughter and a friend who just made the JV volleyball team. Wait--didn't we just have a baby shower for that child? How is it possible that she started high school this week?
In some ways it makes me feel old, but it's more complex than that. I sometimes feel that time is wrinkling. Some part of me doesn't feel much older than my high school self--and I know that I'm very lucky. And yet, clearly, I am old enough to have children in high school or college myself. A new generation emerges.
The various 50 year anniversaries this year are also a reminder of how much time has zipped on. It seems like just yesterday I found the Woodstock LP in the collection of my college radio station. I made a cassette tape and listened to it over and over again. I was listening to music that was already 17 years old. Now it's much older. If you want to listen to that concert in real time, as the concert unfolded hour by hour, over the next few days, go here.
Of course I'm not ready to limp off into the sunset yet. Let me use these reminders of mortality to get moving on projects I want to complete sooner rather than later.
but bestows favor on the humble
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